Category Archives: relationships


Finding and Creating Your Community

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Reader request from my friend Rachel: “Since you asked for potential future topics, may I request one on finding and creating your community? You seem to do this really well and I’d be interested to hear your thoughts on the … Continue reading

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It Takes a Village

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Two people isn’t enough. You need backup. If you’re only two people, and someone drops off the edge, then you’re on your own. Two isn’t a large enough number. You need three at least. – Nick Hornby, About a Boy … Continue reading

Posted in friends, relationships, singleness

People Sometimes Stay

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For me, and I think for most people, one of the worst things about singleness is the pervasive sense of alienation. We may have happy, active social lives, but when everyone goes home and the house is quiet, we don’t … Continue reading

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Alone In A Crowd

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One of my favorite things about singleness is being available to people. Not to say I’m fancy-free with no responsibilities (I hate that assumption), but since I’m not focused on one main relationship, I can spend my relational energy pretty … Continue reading

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Men, Women, Friendships

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Thanks for the quality feedback on my last post! It’s prompted some good discussion privately with friends too. If you didn’t get a chance to chime in, it’s not too late! As a follow-up, I decided to share a little more … Continue reading

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He’s Not That Into You (Or Is He?)

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I’m beginning to question some of my long-held assumptions about dating. My dating programming has been equally informed by conservative Christian active man/passive woman expectations, secular “He’s Just Not That Into You” philosophy, and my relationship with my ex, who … Continue reading

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About Fixups

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Everybody wants to make a sandwich with the last two pieces of bread. – Cathy Guisewite Sometimes I worry that I’ve gotten a bad reputation about dating. After all, I’m pretty passionate about my right to say no to a … Continue reading

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A Treatise on Saying No

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I’m privy to a lot of (unsolicited) dating advice. Not usually directed right at me, just articles and blog posts I come across. Some of the advice has been worth pondering. Some has been smug, insensitive and/or just plain bad. News … Continue reading

Posted in dating, relationships, womanhood

Seeing, Knowing, Loving

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Last week, while sitting in church, I had one of those realizations of an obvious truth that I hadn’t found an internal framework for. I’ve been thinking more than usual about relationships and community, and this is what dawned on me: People want … Continue reading

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